7 Online Dating Tips to Attract Your Compatible Partner

So you still haven’t found your soulmate through online dating after spending hours every day endlessly searching and waiting and still hoping that you can find that true connection with at least ONE of your dates.  The good news is that “The One” is definitely out there waiting to meet you, you just need to make your online dating profile more attractive to your match. Here are a few online dating tips based on psychology research compiled by the Psychological Science Journal to start your online dating profile makeover:

1. Post an Attractive Photo

Although you would like to be judged by your great personality, your profile photo is what encourages a potential partner to get to know your personality better. Compared to women, men are more influenced by how physically attractive their potential dates are. Online daters find the following photo attributes to be most attractive:

• Women are deemed more attractive when they look feminine, high in self-esteem, and not selfish.
• Men are considered more attractive when they look genuine, extraverted, and feminine but not overly warm or kind (although whole male profiles are considered more attractive when they seem more masculine)

So show your photos to your friends and have them describe your attributes in those photos. Post the photo that most matches the above attributes.

2. Be Detailed About Yourself

After clicking on your profile because of your attractive photo, your potential partner will start to get to know you by reading your self-description. He or she will fill in any gaps in your description with likely positive guesses about you. Research shows that knowing more information about a potential date generally leads to liking them less, possibly because it calls out inconsistencies and reduces opportunities to fill in the blanks with positive inferences. However, with a particularly compatible partner, more information leads to more liking. For online daters, this means that a very detailed profile might attract fewer, but more compatible partners.

3. Men, Advertise Your High Income

Men, although you would like to be judged by your great personality, displaying or alluding to your high income (e.g. saying that you’re a doctor or a lawyer) will get women more interested in your personality. Psychology research shows that women weigh income more than physical attributes, including facial attractiveness, height and body mass index, when deciding whom to contact. Men, please do not be offended. Remember, you judge women more harshly on their attractiveness before you give their personality a chance.

4. Be Persistent

In online dating, women have more power. Women are contacted much more frequently than men, and therefore have more choices of who to reply to. Women also initiate contact less than men, which means that women are waiting for that guy with the perfect profile to contact them.  So men, if a woman checks out your profile, and you like her, contact her. Don’t be discouraged if your “perfect” girl does not reply or your “perfect” guy does not contact you. Remember, in online dating, there is plenty of fish in the sea, so keep swimming

5. Respect Each Other’s Preferences

Online dating is a platform for future relationships, and in relationships, respect for each other is important. As a result, users who respect others’ listed preferences for a potential partner are more likely to get a response.

6. Check Out The Less Popular Users

In online dating, those users who have the highest average number of people contacting them per day are marked as “popular”. The popular users are contacted more and are therefore more selective in their responses. However, women respond more frequently to men whose popularity on the site is similar to their own. Think of it in terms of high school dating: the most popular guy is going to date the most popular girl, but he is also going to cheat on her because he has so many choices. So look for the slightly less popular potential dates who are more likely to respond and become exclusive with you.

7. Clearly State Your Preferences

Psychology research shows that online daters tend to contact people who are very similar to themselves in all online profile categories, including age, education, height, religion, political views, and smoking, and especially marital status and wanting or already having children.  So make sure you are as truthful as possible about yourself and what you want.

Online dating offers you the opportunity to meet people you would never meet otherwise. My biggest advice is to be honest. After all, honesty and trust is what relationships are based on, so why start your relationship by lying on your profile?  You may not get as many responses with your honesty, but the ones you do get, will be from your most compatible matches.

What profile features do you focus on when choosing your online date?

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